Long-distance relationships aren’t easy. They require a great deal of effort from both partners, and if you don’t set some ground rules, your relationship can easily fizzle out as your attention turns elsewhere.
That being said, long-distance relationships can be extremely rewarding and full of love if both people are committed to making it work. Here are some top tips if you’re in a long-distance relationship and are looking for some inspiration to help your fledgling romance thrive.
Set some ground rules.
You and your partner need to begin by setting some ground rules for your long-distance relationship. When you don’t see your partner every day, you need to ensure you’re both on the same page and understand what you want from the relationship. Misunderstandings are often more difficult to overcome in long-distance relationships, so setting some ground rules will help you and your partner get what you need from one another.
Agree on how and when to communicate.
Communication is super important for every relationship. But it’s even more crucial if you don’t see your partner regularly. If you’re in a different part of the world from your loved one, you should agree on how best to communicate, whether it’s through a messaging app like WhatsApp, as well as how regularly you should keep in touch. While you might not be able to schedule every call and message, setting some expectations in regard to communication will ensure you both keep in touch regularly.
Plan virtual date nights.
Just because you’re not able to go on actual dates together, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make the effort to schedule date nights. Virtual date ideas like watching movies or sharing your favourite takeaway while on Zoom or FaceTime can be just as romantic as meeting up in person. What’s more, feeling as if you’re actually doing something together, even when there’s a distance between you, is so important when it comes to building memories and getting to know one another better.
Talk about your future together.
When you’re in a long-distance relationship, you need to talk about your future together. Whether it’s certain things that you will do together when you next meet up, or perhaps even planning your future life together with a shared home or even kids, planning the future will motivate you both to work even harder to make your relationship work. If you’re able to visualise a happy future with your long-distance partner, it will be easier to manage the current distance between you.
Make the most of your time together.
This might seem like an obvious thing to say, but when you have the chance to actually physically be with your partner, make sure you make the most out of your time together! When you’re about to meet up, try and develop a positive mindset and leave any issues or problems you have aside. The last thing you want to do is sit and complain to your partner when you haven’t seen them for so long, so try and keep things positive so you’re able to enjoy your time together.
Don’t blame the distance for how your relationship is.
Often, people use the fact that they’re in a long-distance relationship as an excuse for things being as they are. For instance, lack of effort on birthdays and special occasions is often blamed on the distance, but it shouldn’t be! There’s no excuse in any type of relationship for a lack of effort from either partner, so if things aren’t working out as you would have hoped, be sure to talk to your partner about it directly. If you avoid talking about it and just use the distance between you as an excuse, you will only end up growing even further apart.
Surprise visits are ALWAYS a great idea.
If you’re able to plan a surprise visit to see your partner, do everything you can to make it happen. Why? Because he or she will appreciate it more than you could possibly imagine. Whether you can romantically join them on their commute home from work on the train, or drop by their apartment early on a Saturday morning as they’re about to begin their weekend, your partner will be delighted with the effort you’ve put in to surprise them.
Don’t neglect your sexual needs.
You can quickly become sexually frustrated in a long-distance relationship, particularly for younger couples and those who have recently started dating, is the lack of activity in the bedroom!
Sex is a huge part of any relationship and you shouldn’t just neglect your sexual needs and desires because you’re not able to be together.
You can get creative when it comes to messaging one another, and even spice things up over Zoom or FaceTime. While it might seem difficult at first, you will certainly appreciate that you made the effort over time.
Support one another and empathise with your situation.
Long-distance relationships are tough, there’s no getting away from it. Instead of butting heads and giving each other a hard time, be sure to support your partner and empathise with their situation. The relationship is likely to be hard for you both, so don’t make them feel bad about the way things are. Offer love and support to one another and talk about how things will be different in the future. If you’re able to support each other through the relationship when you’re not together, you will reap the rewards when you finally meet up.
Nobody is saying that long-distance relationships are easy. They undoubtedly require a lot more effort than conventional partnerships, and it can sometimes be disheartening to be so far away from your partner when you need them the most. However, with that being said, it’s perfectly possible to have a meaningful, extremely loving long-distance relationship that will maybe even develop into marriage in the future. Hopefully, these nine tips will help you support your partner, and show you that a long-distance relationship can definitely work.